In our course on parenting, the first thing we teach is taking care of yourself. This seems to be one of the most challenging things for people to do, especially parents. Our students squirm in their seats when we discuss this topic. For the most part, people feel that they are being selfish if they are putting themselves first. I am not going to go into all the possible reasons why this is the case. What I do believe is that if you are not taking care of yourself, it is difficult to be fully there when someone needs you. So the more you can do for yourself first, the more you will be able to do for others later. So be selfish each day and take care of yourself first. Take a long walk, read a book, take a hot bath, get a massage or just think about those things that you appreciate in your life. Pick your spirits up first and you will be even more ready to be there for another.